The Memoir
Choosing Life
A Memoir of Healing, Belonging, and Coming Home to Myself
A luminous, courageous memoir that traces a journey through loss, disconnection, and the quiet, persistent call of the soul toward healing, belonging, and an unexpected homecoming.
About the Book
Your Story Shaped You. It Does Not Have to Define You.
We inherit more than we realize. Family patterns, old wounds, and the ways we learned to survive can quietly shape how we love, what we believe, and the lives we build.
Choosing Life is a memoir, but it is also an invitation to look at your own story differently.
Through Carol’s journey from a complicated childhood and the love she found with her grandmother to heartbreak, healing, spiritual awakening, and an unexpected health crisis, the book explores what can happen when we begin to see our lives, our families, and ourselves with new eyes.
Healing does not require us to reject where we came from. Sometimes it means understanding what shaped us, making peace with what cannot be changed, and letting go of what is no longer ours to carry.
"It is never too late to choose yourself."
Endorsements
Reflections on Choosing Life
Choosing Life is a deeply personal and courageous memoir that speaks to the universal human longing for love, belonging, and healing. Carol shares her life with honesty and vulnerability, inviting readers into a journey through profound loss, resilience, and ultimately self-discovery.
What makes this memoir so compelling is not simply the story itself, but the wisdom that emerges from lived experience. Rather than offering easy answers, Carol shows how healing unfolds through embracing our family story, acknowledging what has been, and learning to welcome every part of ourselves with compassion.
Those familiar with Family Constellation work will recognize its essential principles woven naturally throughout the narrative, while those new to the field will find an accessible and deeply human introduction to seeing our lives within the wider context of family and belonging.
Choosing Life offers a moving glimpse into Carol's journey from a disadvantaged childhood and immigration to the United States, through professional success, and ultimately into healing and spirituality.
I found the book easy to read, thought-provoking, and inspiring. Carol writes about the difficult experiences of her life with sensitivity and honesty.
Motivational, full stop. As a therapist, I found Carol's memoir to be a powerful reminder that healing is rarely linear, but it is always possible.
If you've found your way to this book, perhaps it's an invitation to reconnect with the parts of yourself you've lost or forgotten. Through vulnerability, resilience, and profound self-discovery, Carol offers more than a story, she offers hope.
Whether you're just beginning your spiritual journey or have been walking it for years, this book serves as a gentle reminder to keep going, to trust the process, and to choose yourself, even in seasons when life feels impossibly heavy.
I was deeply moved by Carol's memoir. With honesty, warmth, and remarkable insight, she shows how even our most difficult experiences can be transformed into purpose and healing. Deeply personal, universally relatable, compelling, and inspirational!
Choosing Life is an inspiring and deeply honest memoir of courage, transformation, and the search for genuine healing. Carol shows how even a life that appears successful on the outside can call us toward something deeper—inner alignment, purpose, and a more authentic way of living.
Choosing Life, Every Day
About Carol
Carol Sun is an author, medicine woman, energy healer, systemic constellation facilitator, and yoga teacher, and the creator of the Choosing Life Method™. Shaped by childhood wounds, life between cultures, deep personal healing, and an unexpected health crisis, she came to understand that choosing life is not a single decision. It is how we meet ourselves, what life brings us, and the choices we make again and again.
Her work brings together Andean healing traditions, Family Constellations, energy healing, embodied practices, and the wisdom of her own lived experience. The Choosing Life Method™ grew from this journey and offers a way to see the patterns that shape us, release what is ready to shift, reconnect with ourselves, and move forward with greater awareness.
Beyond her work, Carol is curious about life in all its forms. She loves traveling, cooking, being in nature, reading, having meaningful conversations, and creating. Her creativity has taken many forms over the years, most recently through writing her memoir and creating an album inspired by her own journey.
When she isn't working or creating, she can often be found at home in Boston with her beloved cat, Minx.
Her memoir, Choosing Life, shares the experiences that shaped her and the deeper story behind the work she offers today.
Get the Book
Where to Buy
Available August 28, 2026 in hardcover, paperback, and eBook.
Also Launching: The Album
Choosing Life — the album — arrives on the same day as the memoir. Two forms of the same story. Let both carry you home.